Women, it is time to take our places back into our families and allow order to take place in our lives.

There are so many complaints in the way this world has become. The truth is the disorder began in the home. During World War 2 a lot of women had to step up to the plate and work while the men went overseas and fought in the war. The problem then was women did not step back from their “temporary” role and took men away from their position and it caused a whole lot of identity issues. The consequences of these actions are still affecting everyone’s life today.

The women decided they liked being a boss and having control over things. The problem with this is they do not take their roles back as being servants in the home, which is what in the Word of God, He has called us to do.

Now many women are not servants in the home, but instead they have become very self-sufficient and that has taken them out of the role that God has made them to fill and has eliminated the role that God has placed there for a man to fill in their lives. God is not expecting a woman to be dominated by a man, instead, to be the man’s helpmate and work with the man, not rule or command a man what to do.

There has been misconceptions of the Scriptures of Ephesians 5:21-33 where God gives instructions to the Christian households for a wife and husband. The word submit has been taken out of context and has been used as a bad trigger in most women and men. The enemy has distorted what God made to be good.

The word submit is defined as:

1 : to yield to governance or authority
2 : to subject to a condition, treatment, or operation
3 : to present or propose to another for review, consideration, or decision
4 : to put forward as an opinion or contention

5 : to yield oneself to the authority or will of another : surrender
6 : to permit oneself to be subjected to something
7 : to defer to or consent to abide by the opinion or authority of another

The word servant is defined as:

1 : one that serves others, a public servant, especially : one that performs duties about the person or home of a master or personal employer
2 : a person who performs duties for others, especially a person employed in a house on domestic duties or as a personal attendant
3 : a person employed in the service of a government
4 : a devoted and helpful follower or supporter

I really want to bring your attention to how submit and servant reflects the same thing. Women, we were created to be the helper of our husband. We were created to assist them in the things that God has brought forth in life. We are to be their companion and their encourage as well as one that works with the Holy Spirit to guide them in the right direction and to help share the burden and not be the burden.

This world has become so self-centered that it has become all out for themselves and everything has become an inconvenience when you have to do things another person’s way.

There are many who will read this and will get offended and even flare inside that this isn’t right, fair, or pertain to them, but the truth is this behavior that has been spoken of does not reflect who God is and what He has shown in His own character. God in all of His power, might, and ability to everything Himself, He still gives out assignments, gifts, and consults the council of the Angelic Hosts and the courts on some of the decisions He makes. He shares His throne room with Jesus and the Holy Spirit. God does not have to do this, but it is who He is.

When Jesus came here to this earth, He served the people. He did not require that other’s serve Him in the capacity of selfishness but to serve Him in the way of serving the Father to save more souls and bring them to Him as His children. Jesus washed His disciples’ feet to show the sincerity of His heart to serve His followers. It is necessary for a leader to be able to serve and a servant to be able to surrender to the leader’s authority. It never says in the Bible to do these things in the respect of what is best for you or to avoid persecution of self. He confirms this when He says that obedience is better than sacrifice. There are times when many people will avoid obedience because they foresee that they will have to pay a price for another’s actions.

We are supposed to use sound wisdom however in a marriage we made a commitment to surrender to our husband and the role that God has given him. When you make a contact with an employer, you must surrender to their rules, regulations, and their requirements and if you are not able to abide by them then you need to remove yourself or humble yourself. You are required to be the servant until the contract is voided.

Ladies this may be a big pill to swallow but it is the truth. When we were called to submit to our husbands it doesn’t mean “bowing down” to them.

Have you ever observed your husband and the things he does or what makes him mad? Have you observed how he works and what makes things easier for him or how he likes things to be that brings him a little more comfort?

Many of you women probably have but not in the context of why I am asking you this. You may have been observing  these kinds of things by complaining and judging your husband and that is not what I am talking about.

When you want to help someone you look to see where the need is. You look to see in what area is their weakness that you can provide a stilt of help that can keep them moving forward.

When you see a person on the sidewalk down on their luck, you may be quick to observe that they need some money to eat and give them a couple dollars. You have just served them in their need.

But what about your husband? What if your husband comes in completely exhausted from a hard day of work? Do you provide them the chance to relax for a minute or do you start spouting out the things you need them to do – after all you have been handling it all day {or you are just frustrated because you want to sit down and play a game without being hindered}? Do you observe the different ways in making a way where life can flow where there would be an opportunity to have dinner ready and maximize the time that you can spend together to talk about each other’s day?

When you remove your focus off your own needs and look at what he may need, it changes the whole answer. What he needs may not be the same things as you need. It is your job as his wife to know these things so that you do not add to conflict but help eliminate it. You cannot do this if all you are thinking about is how unfair it is to do things for him or having to go along with a decision he has made. The truth is ladies, that if you are praying for your husband, God will tell you what to do in each situation. But you have to be obedient.

These are just some things for you to digest this time, but there is more to come on this subject. When looking for change the first place to look is at self and how you can change to make things better. The role of a wife in a home is very important and when it is not filled things are not in balance.

Ephesians 5:21-33 (NIV)
Instructions for Christian Households

21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—
30 for we are members of his body.
31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.
33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.