When God made man and woman to become one, it meant in every aspect. The “I” became “we”. Just as Eve was made out of Adam’s rib, a wife is a part of the husband and should be respected as the helper and the one who guards his heart. When you allow someone to guard something as valuable as your heart you trust them with the one thing that keeps you alive.  The wife should take this honor very seriously.

But there is even more to it than that. When you become one, it is not just agreeing to become one with another person, but to do so in front of God and including God in the union.  This physically takes place when you go through the ceremony and sign the marriage certificate, and you make the confession through your mouth and signature.

You become one in the spirit realm when God recognizes you as husband and wife and you have professed that you are to be husband and wife. You share a bond with one another through various ways. You will find out that as this bond continues, you will share thoughts, habits, and even start speaking like one another as the unity takes place and fellowship is established completely.

In the body, unity as one takes place when the sexual contact has been made.  It is when you connect with that one person as you should have not done with anyone else and will not do with anyone else. Your bodies begin to communicate to one another through different parts of your brain that lets you know your spouse is the one who completes you. It may sound strange but your body really does make that connection that it is your other half. You have made a pathway of living out the command of being fruitful and multiplying.

So in one day you should have become one in your body, soul, and spirit. It is a connection of a brand new life, a brand new journey has begun together with the two of you and a new family is formed. This is where the old passes away and newness takes place. The old person of each of you is gone and a new man formed together as one begins.

There are some that experiences something similar to this newness when they became born again. They knew that they had become joined with God and that a new life had taken place. This time you are doing it with another person and a whole new experience serving God has begun.

Because of the bonding that takes place it is very important to wait until you get married to have sex and to take the ceremony vows very seriously. It is a commitment for life.

You will now share the same home, bed, finances, and responsibilities as a man and woman starting a life together. It sounds so beautiful and wonderful and it is. It really is beautiful and wonderful when it is as God intended it to be.

Then when the ‘honeymoon’ phase wears off, that is when reality hits that you now have to get used to all the things that you will see the person do that you may not have seen before. You may have to deal with snoring, bras hanging in the bathroom, toilet seat left up, coffee not made the way you like it, sharing the TV, and things of such as these. You realize that you have a lot of balancing that needs to take place and how you handle it will have an effect on how your life goes from then on out.

If this is making some of you nervous about getting married, there is a lot to consider. Remember God has called marriages. We have the duty of removing our eyes off the world’s marriages and see them through God’s eyes. To do this you need to get in the Word of God and see all that God has for a marriage.

A spouse should be one you have excellent communication with. You should have trust established. Love should be formed so that you can endure the bad days.

Look at the way your body works, if the brain and the heart do not communicate, then the body will not be able to live. If the brain and the heart do not communicate properly due to a barrier, then the body will not work properly either. It is the same as husband and wife. If they are not communicating properly there will a malfunction in the family and if there is no proper communication, nurturing, and fellowship, it will fall to destruction and all life will be removed.

When you get married, you die and a new identity is born. It is life from that moment forward on being husband and wife. It is two that has become one. If you were to separate one from the other before death, they would never again be a whole individual. The only exception is if it is a direct intervention from God. What God gives He can take away.

If you are already married, and your marriage is rocky and unstable- seek God’s face on how to start the road to recovery. Put God first in your marriage and allow Him to do the work. There is nothing too impossible for God. If you are not married, make sure all things are lined up the way God wants them because it is a life changing decision that you are making and a covenant that is not easily broken – even with divorce. The most important thing is to find out what God’s Will is and following through with it. When you do this, your life will work out for your good and God’s Glory.

Job 1:21 (NIV)
and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.”

Genesis 2:18, 21-24 (NIV)

¹⁸ The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

²¹ So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. ²² Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. ²³ The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” ²⁴ That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.