Right now it is running rampant on how much pornography has become an addiction and has how acceptable it is even among the church. There are wonderful programs that are out there, like the Conquer Series who are reaching out to those who are wanting help and getting free from perversion.

Unfortunately not enough churches are reaching out and using these resources to help those who are addicted. Some of the issue is there are people in leadership that is involved in the pornography and do not want to face it or change.

Another one of the problems is that the porn is so easy to get a hold of and socially acceptable that there is not much conviction to make a person want to change. Another issue is that when the person does want to change only the perversion is addressed. The root of the problem is still there and therefore the problem with the perversion will grow again.

Pornography and perversion is a sin. It is a double edged sin because it is a sin against God but also a sin against your own body. This means that it is more work to overcome but it does not make it impossible to overcome.

Pornography and perversions itself is an act that comes from a root of a problem. When a person puts action to that problem such as masturbation or prostitutes it changes the way your mind thinks and functions toward real things. Underneath all of that is the real reason why they began in the first place.

Was it peer pressure? Was it from a heart break? Was it from abuse? Was it a generational curse or sin that has been passed down? Is it an identity problem? Only when that root is pulled out will complete change take place.

It is a process and it is one that requires a lot of prayer, healing, ministry, and the correct support. Without a heart that truly wants to change you will find that you will just spin your wheels on trying to get out of the addiction. One time is too many, but the best time to stop is right now. Do not wait another minute.

You can overcome this problem and God can restore to you newness of life where this bondage has no more part in you. There are tools all in the Word of God on how to become a new creation in Him and how to renew the mind. There are tools on how to get a heart healed and to get out of sin. There are so many life changing tools in the Word if only people would take the time to apply it and seek it out. The Holy Spirit is right there to lead you to understanding.

The problem is this generation and time has become very lazy and selfish. They want the work done for them and immediately. And if it doesn’t happen instantly they decide it is not going to work and choose to stay in their sin. To them it is easier to stay in the sin then to fight to get out. The problem with this thinking is the devil has shielded them from the reality of the cost that they will have to pay.

Sexual immorality is extremely dangerous and is a sin against your own body. It changes the way you think and respond to intimacy and even your understanding of it. Then once it gets roots into your belief system that it is ok and any other lie similar that comes along with it, the harder the battle becomes to get rid of it.

When you commit sexual acts with yourself you create a bond with yourself that was created to be shared with your spouse. It becomes a trickery on your mind that causes you to believe that yourself is all that you need. It destroys your image of the opposite sex. It ultimately changes your life and you become more of the opposite of what God created you to be.

To get back on the road of recovery first you have to admit that you have a problem. You have to go deeper than the obvious ones. You have to go deeper than the actions that you have committed. This may take some deep one on one time with God to get to the very bottom of the problem.

As you go through this, repent for the things that come up and allow yourself to go through the emotions of the experience. This is when it is a good time to find someone who will support you during this time and help you through the process. You are going to want someone who is solid in Christ and will place up boundaries that will keep you safe from further bondage.

Sometimes it is just easier to have a sounding board as these things get brought back to memory simply because they can keep you focused and keep you in reality and limit the chance of becoming self-deceived.

It is amazing the lack of accountability that has also taken over the generational time. Due to that lack of accountability has been the result of the lack of wanting to change. That is another reason why you should have someone with you. Make yourself accountable to them and walk it out. Set boundaries that will keep you free from the temptation and bondage of the perversion. Every step you take away from perversion is another step towards freedom.

You can have a renewed mind. You can have a renewed and reset arousal template. You can overcome the addiction of pornography. There is hope. Jesus Christ died on the Cross to save the sinner. Whether you are addicted to lying, stealing, drugs, alcohol, food, gossip, or you do not honor your word or love as you should there is a chance for you to make a decision to be done with the “old man” and walk in the new life that Jesus Christ provided for us when He went to the Cross, died for us, defeated the devil, and rose again victorious and has return to the Father in Heaven and intercedes for us. Jesus is on our side.

Do not allow a spouse’s reaction to your addiction sway you from getting help. Don’t do it for them. Do it for God and for your future with Him. As you have your eyes focused on God and getting better with Him and listening to His instructions, He will take care of the rest. The key here would be to be obedient to what He says to do and believe that all will work out according to His plan and not your own.

If you are a spouse who has found out that your partner is into pornography or spiritual or physical adultery, God can still heal you and your marriage. It does hurt and your feelings do matter. But you do not have to let your feelings control you. You do not have to respond as the world would respond. You can stay and support your spouse to find help and to pray for them and be a support to see them recover and to see that you are just as important to become healed. It is not right that the spouse did this to you, however, go back to your vows and what did you say?

Did you say if you are unfaithful to me that I would leave? Or did you say for better or WORSE, in SICKNESS or in health, to love and to cherish from this day forth? I do not see nor hear where a spouse has said or promised to only do these things if they are done back to them.

You both can heal and become restored by God’s love and healing mercies and your marriage can be restored as well. It will be hard work and there will be good days, not so good days, and days that will seem like they will not end. But by the strength of the joy of the Lord you can get through each day of recovery.

Even if your spouse doesn’t change and your marriage completely falls apart, just know that God loves you and each person has a choice. Learn and love and then do as God instructs you to do. God loves you unconditionally. Forgive your spouse. Forgive yourself. And let God heal you.