For some people, when you first met the love of your life, you seem to be blinded to all their flaws. You see only the things you like about them. You go on how they bring the feeling of making you feel alive, desired, loved, and all those feel good feelings that come from the beginning of a relationship.

Then, as time moves forward a trickling of flaws starts to come up to the surface and along side of it boredom, resentment, resistance, dread, and all those not so feel good emotions when you start to see that your Mr or Miss Perfect is not so perfect.

What has changed in that little bit of time? The truth is nothing has really changed, but your vision and belief of that person. All throughout the Word of God, it was those who God called together that remained together and did great works together for God. But it did not mean that the road was easy and that they didn’t have to work at staying together.

Just look at Adam and Eve. God put those two together, but Eve messed up and Adam messed up with her and caused the both of them to live a life that was not as they were intended to live, but God did not split them up. He kept them together and they continued on as one. They go through a loss of a son together, raising a family together, deal with the responsibility of the sin that they had committed against God.

Then you have Abraham and Sarah. Abraham not only was unfaithful to Sarah but also put her in awkward situations that benefited his well being. Sarah did not buck and resist, but instead continued to love Abraham and honor him as her husband. As the flaws were buffered out of Abraham, he became the father of many nations.

Sarah was not innocent in the marriage either. She asked Abraham to take on another woman to have a child since she at the time could not and then regretted her decision.  She asks Abraham to send the lady and their child away and Abraham did so. Even through this and so much more they stayed together and the one thing they wanted, God granted it to them, a son.

The world today is in such a hurry to get involved with a partner, get married, and then just as quick to get a divorce. They run on an emotional high and then when they get tired of it or the flaws is more than what they want to deal with, they break the covenant of marriage that God has intended to be for life. The vows say “until death do we part”.

It is very important to go into a marriage with your eyes wide open to see the person who they are and their character strengths and flaws. A marriage that has a foundation based on mutual beliefs in God, friendship,and goals in their walks with God has a stronger chance to survive all the hard and tough times that you will face.

Unfortunately the same things happen when we enter into our walks with God. We go into the walk sure footed and full of fire, not looking at the life change that takes place. Then, as we get into the relationship with God, the enemy starts knocking at the door to make you think that you see flaws all around you, trying to discourage you and take your fire out.

Too many times, people believe these lies and lose out on their first love, which should be Jesus Christ. Instead of seeing the beauty of the relationship they begin to believe the lie of captivity and restriction.

A marriage and your relationship commitment to God is no different. It is a covenant, a promise, that you agree to that should never enter a decision of division. If you take your eyes off the perceived flaws and put them back on Jesus and choose to love, you are able to endure any storm or hardship that comes your way to stop the relationship from maturing and being steadfast.

Choose today to see the joy it is to have a committed relationship with God as well as a joy it is to be married. Get rid of your negative attitude about your spouse and pray for them. Press on to see that even when your spouse is not the best that day, you can have the best with God, and He will help you in areas that you may feel you are failing.

When the flaws are all you see, ask God to renew your eyesight and to show you as He sees. You may be very surprised at how seeing through God’s eyes can make things easier to press on.