Sex is a sacred thing between a husband and wife. Even though the world has twisted, perverted, and dishonored it in so many ways – does not change the truth.

When people think of sex, most of the time they think of it as a physical act. It has been portrayed as a tool of acceptance, an act of love, of sexual attraction, the latest fad, and what makes you feel good. The truth is there is so much more to sex than just a physical act.

When two bodies participate in the act of sex whether it be with a person or by themselves it brings a connection in the spirit realm that not many people will talk about. God made sex to be between a husband and wife for two reasons: to be connected as one, and to be fruitful and multiply, or have children.

People often spend much time planning the physical surroundings for their intimate interludes. But how many people are aware of their spiritual surroundings during sex?

The world can destroy sex all they want but the truth is it was God who made sex. Man did not create it, but has shredded it as an unrecognizable gift that God has given. We don’t get to tell or argue with God where the boundaries for sex are to be set. That’s His call, and His alone. It should always be based upon the Word of God and under His authority.

God has set His bar of where sex should be, and it should be followed. When man tries to lower the bar God has set for sex and ignore His commands about it, the person finds that their soul suffers for it. They will find out that their soul suffers more than what their body goes through. God addresses these sexual conduct issues in the Scriptures.

All over the place in all the nations people are having sex. They are together in the same physical location performing the act, but where are they in soul? What is going on that the eye cannot see?

I have been studying many things about this because we in the deliverance team at the Lighthouse Church come across issues where the person finds themselves suffering due to a sexual contact that they had with another person. It has been discovered that their partners DNA has been deposited in them, that there is a transference of spirits, and consequences for ungodly sex that has opened doors to all kinds of spiritual things, and this is to just list a few.

So if the body stays in one place when a person is having sex, where does the soul go?

I have found through studying (and God I am sure will reveal more about this in His timing) they go three different places depending on where you are at spiritually and who you are having sex with.

If you are married and staying in the area that God ordained sex, free of sin, your souls are being connected in the “marriage bed” in the spirit realm. It is a spiritual union between husband and wife that brings a strength between them and with God. It is one of the blessings of marriage and should always be treated as such.

The Word of God states in Hebrews 13:4 (NIV)
4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

The “marriage bed” is the only place that God intended for the connection in the spirit realm to take place. It is the only way God has blessed sex. When you engage in these next two places with spiritual connections they do bring a curse and consequences for your sin and actions. In addition it is also where evil spirits can be transferred back and forth.

The second spiritual place that the connection takes place when engaged in sex is “the church”. The temple of the Lord, the church, the vessel of your body belongs to God if you have been born again. You never leave church just because you have left the building made by man. You still dwell in the building that God created, which is your body. Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. Therefore any sexual sin (or any sin) that you commit is as if you are doing it right in front of everyone you fellowship with in church, because your sin affects the lives you are around. You are doing this sin right before God and defiling His Temple, His church which is your body.

1 Corinthians 3:16 (NIV)
16 Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in your midst? There is nothing honorable about committing sexual sin in church.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (NIV)
18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.
19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

We’ve now seen two of the three spiritual places people can have sex… the marriage bed, and the church. It’s time to consider the third place where two souls can meet when engaging in sex.

The third place is the place of sinners who may or may not have waited for marriage and have not known Jesus as their savior. There are only two roads leading to eternity. There is the narrow road to heaven. Then there is the wide road straight to hell. Hell is described by Jesus as a place where “the fire never goes out.” Think of this path as a rim of a volcano and that the person who is heading here walks around this rim, hangs out at this rim, and is only a moment away from entering it forever as they take their last breath. This unbeliever would have a bed sitting right on the rim of the volcano and that they are getting closer and closer to falling into the volcano every time they commit the sin of having sex outside of God’s design. This is the place were two people are connected in the spirit realm when Jesus is not the one who is the head of the union, and the people sin through sex.

Proverbs 6:27-29 (NIV)
27 Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?
28 Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?
29 So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished.

Keep in mind that this Scripture does go both ways. Those who sleep with another woman’s husband will also be punished. Ladies, you are not exempt from this… “who sleeps with another woman’s husband; no one who touches him will go unpunished.” The bible speaks to woman and man alike!

If a woman or man is married or promised to another, they are off limits! Adultery is adultery plain and simple.

My friends, even the couple that are married and are unbelievers are connected in the spirit realm at the volcano. This is because they are still in sin of unbelief. Without Jesus in your life this is where you reside. Jesus is the only one who can save us from our sins and bring us to heaven.

Save and keep sex in the “marriage bed” with God as the head of the union and keeping all your sexual connections in His bar of approval according to His Word.  When you do this God provides “spiritual protection” and your “marriage bed” does indeed stay blessed.